What Do We Mean by "Detachment with Love"?
The idea of detachment can be one of the most challenging and difficult to understand ideas that Al-Anon offers us. It may sound like we are supposed to abandon the people we love because of their alcoholism. Are we supposed to just stop caring?
Al-Anon's most comprehensive book about our program, How Al-Anon Works for Families & Friends of Alcoholics (B-22), presents the shared wisdom of Al-Anon members on every aspect of the Al-Anon program. Chapter 11, "Detachment, Love, and Forgiveness," provides a thorough, in depth discussion of what we mean in Al-Anon by "detachment with love." It also provides insight on Al-Anon's interpretation of forgiveness.