The Forum Magazine
Al-Anon's monthly magazine, The Forum, contains many personal stories of inspiration, some of which are made available each month on the Internet by authorization of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.
Six years ago, I would not have imagined that I would where I am today. I had a broken, long-term marriage behind me. I had started over, and life was good. It was a joy to be alive. I knew what it was like to be happy in my own skin. I had self-confidence, and I was able to experience periods of pure joy. Then, I met the woman that I would marry. Yes, she drank, but it didn’t seem bad. We always had people over or were going out. She was fun, exciting, and sexually assertive—all the things that I was seeking.
Before I came to Al‑Anon, when I was figuring out if I was okay, I had a mental checklist: is my daughter okay, is my son okay, and is my husband okay? If I could answer yes to all of those, then I knew I was okay. When I could no longer deny that my teenage son had a big problem with alcohol and drugs, I was no longer able to feel okay, because he wasn’t okay. I had it backwards.